Carry a book, a game on your phone, or something to keep you entertained during your ride. Just avoid playing videos or music out loud that disturbs others.
The last thing you want to do is get too bored and start looking around at everybody, making other people uncomfortable. That opens you up to conversations you probably don’t want to have and just makes you look weird.
If someone on your subway car is causing trouble or acting crazy, move to another car at the next stop for safety. Even if something just feels a little off, it’s best to avoid an uncomfortable situation.
Go to a car with a decent number of people because there’s safety in numbers. It also means there will be more witnesses if someone were to try something.
Riding in a group can help you feel safer and avoid uncomfortable situations. There's strength in numbers. If you’re already with people, it’s less likely that a stranger will approach you.
Plus, friends can provide the distraction you want to keep yourself busy. It’s fine to have conversations, just still make sure to not get too loud or obnoxious.
Eating is not only unsanitary but also frowned upon by most passengers. Sometimes you may think it’s easier to save time and eat there, but people will judge you (rightfully).
Other passengers will stare and whisper about you, maybe even laugh. We promise it’s easier to save your snacks for when you're off the train or just choose another time to eat.
Avoid backpacks as they can hit other passengers and make you a pickpocket target. You also don’t want a bag so large that it’s difficult to hold or takes up too much space. You’re not going to find an extra seat for your tote.
Instead go for smaller, secure bags. A small purse you can keep on your shoulder or a fanny pack are ideal. Lucky for you, fanny packs are back in style.
Resist the urge to pack into a crammed train. Usuallly, the next one is less crowded and worth the short wait.
If you decide to force your way on, you’re only going to make the New Yorkers on the already cramped train angrier, and that is not a position you want to be in.
Keep conversations quiet to avoid attracting attention or irritating other passengers. This includes if you’re talking to a friend or someone over the phone. Make sure you keep your phone to your ear or use earbuds as well.
Speaking too loudly could also put you in a potentially dangerous situation. If you’re discussing your plans loudly and are overheard, someone could decide to join you without telling you.
Avoid talking to other people as much as you can. Being overly friendly or talkative can lead to creepy encounters, so sometimes it’s best to be distant and ignore questions if they’re too personal.
At the same time, don’t be the person asking overly personal questions to others. You may just want a friend, but most of the time the other person just wants to mind their business, so leave them alone.
It’s normal to be scared to take the subway alone or at night, but sometimes it’s unavoidable. Taking self-defense classes can boost your confidence and help you feel more prepared, especially when traveling alone.
With the basics in self-defense, if you’re put into a potentially dangerous situation, you’d be able to keep yourself safe. Many gyms and other places offer classes, and there’s even online courses where you can teach yourself a thing or two.
Be mindful of your surroundings, avoid blocking doors, and give up your seat for elderly or disabled passengers. Have the same common decency you have everywhere else.
The subway is already cramped enough. Don’t take up more than your fair share of space by spreading out your belongings or continuously moving around. As long as you’re respectful, most of the people around you will be too.
